Making Time for Yourself as an Introvert Mom

I’m not even two years in yet and SO not claiming to be an expert at getting everything I need to maintain self as a mama. BUT, I am someone who has worked hard to balance introversion (essentially my need to create and be with myself internally) with family and home life. It’s month 21 and here’s what I’ve got so far:

Say “No.”

You just have to. I still fight with myself on this, because as an INFJ my people mean A LOT to me. The relationships I have are never surface level. Even when I talk to strangers, the conversation somehow gets deep. But I literally wont be able to function in my personal life if I don’t have time to process my thousand introverted thoughts per minute.

So a lot of the social gatherings I used to attend may have to go. OK, they have gone. lol Not that I don’t need to get out, because trust me I do. And I still want to be invited, BTW! But I have to put my own well being first so that I can be at my best for my family. Sometimes that means saying “no” and that’s an imperfectly perfect answer.

Wake up at least 15 minutes earlier than the kids.

The mornings I can manage to do this are glorious. Even a short time of quite to start the day can give an introvert a special boost of energy. It’s time to make coffee and read a bible verse. Time to take a shower. Time to journal. Whatever will give you a push to start the day in a focused frame of mind rather than having to think all the thoughts while managing the little lives you grew at the same time.

Have designated YOU days.

On these days, if you don’t want to get dressed that’s OK. If you do want to get dressed and go sit in a corner of a coffee shop with headphones on (that’s OK, too). I usually do a combination of uninterrupted work and sleep. Do whatever will fill your soul and nourish your body. And have someone you trust watch the kids so you’re not worried.

Take long bubble baths at night (with the door closed).

Some weeks I do this every night. There’s just nothing like the sanctuary of a tub. Also get some Epsom Salts and high quality EO’s for detox. Some of my favorites are Lavender, Stress Away and Deep Relief.

Take the kids to a low profile park.

And enjoy the sound of the air mixed with giggles while they play. Getting out of the house doesn’t HAVE to mean socializing or even that you have to enter a high energy situation at all.


I haven’t been the best at this since becoming a mom, but as far as making use of my alone time it is always valuable. I’m so introverted that I sometimes don’t even know what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling until I write it down.

If you’re feeling frustrated or stressed, try taking a few minutes a day to freely write it out. And don’t filter yourself. A wise person once told me, “just write. Whatever comes out on the page is important.”

Hope this helps mama friends! As always, email me if you want to chat or have a topic idea for me!

7 Self-Care Tips for Surviving Winter

1. Wear Bright Colors.

Just because it’s dark outside doesn’t mean you have to wear dark! I always feel better in yellow, or another vibrant color. Also obsessed with “wine” right now, but I’m not a fashion blogger so I’ll leave that up to y’all. (;

2. Eat Garlic, Yogurt and Almonds.

As y’all know, this time of year all kinds of flu and cold viruses are going around. And I learned the hard way last year that prevention is everything. It turns out, garlic is not just for warding off vampires! It has been shown to stimulate the immune system by multiplying antibodies and even reduce existing symptoms of the cold and flu. Booyah!

My second self-care food for winter is yogurt. Eating yogurt is great for the digestive tract as a source of probiotics. And guess what else? Vitamin D! Definitely need that this time of year.

Lastly, organic raw almonds are a gem of a snack to keep around. They contain protein, fiber, magnesium, vitamin E, calcium, potassium and iron. Need I say more??

3. Take an Epsom Salt Bath.

Many people think of epsom salts as relaxing, and indeed they are. But they also offer a glorious detox for the body and muscles. I like to add 1-2 cups to a warm bath. You’ll get the most benefit if you soak for at least twenty minutes. But I’ve been known to stay in there for a good two hours. Don’t judge.

If you’re adding essential oils to your bath, make sure to add them to the epsom salts first so that they are not just sitting on top of the water. Some of my bath time favorites are: PanAway, Spearmint , Frankincense, Stress Away and Melrose.

4. Moisturize.

This may sounds trivial, but we need to intentionally take more time out to do this during the winter. Nothing feels worse than itchy skin.

Currently obsessing over Young Living’s LavaDerm Cooling Mist. I love that I can spray it on my face instead of rubbing it in…because these days I need to save all the skin elasticity that I can. NowhatI’msayin?

5. Designate a Steel or Glass Water Bottle.

And drink plenty of water. This will probably be on any list I ever make about health. I can tell an obvious difference on days when I’ve been drinking more water. It benefits every organ in the body.

I find that when I have a special canister (with a straw) as my designated water container for the day, I drink A LOT more of it. Having it in something portable and functional enables constant reminder and easy consumption. I also love to add lemons or lime when I’m needing some flavor, which also happen to be great for cleansing the body this time of year.

6. Use Lavender EO Topically at Night.

The more I research Lavender Oil, the more I want every single person (but especially baby mamas) to have a bottle by their night stand. Other than inducing sleep and relieving stress, it has also been shown to moisturize, calm inflammation and reduce mucus. Say what??

One of my favorite ways to use Lavender is to rub it directly on top of my nasal passageway and temples before bed. It’s also nice on the chest and lymph nodes. Make sure to inhale deeply once you put in on and always start by diluting with a carrier oil, although Lavender is very mild.

7. Buy Yourself Flowers.

Or Valentine’s Day decorations if flowers aren’t your jam. But don’t reserve these things for special occasions! Grab those flowers you’ve been eyeing at the grocery store and bring them home! You’re living room will be brighter and chances are your mood will be too.


Disclaimer: Suggestions made on this website are specific to Young Living and should not be used with any other essential oils. This information and these products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.